| Thursday, November 26th, 2009 |
| 6:34 pm |
A week in...
to my Baby Steps program. I've practiced everyday since last Friday, and I actually feel that I'm moving forward, and being out there and around women is becoming a lil more easier with each day. Other stuff... I've exactly one month left till the beginning of my trip. I'm already starting to get ready for the finals, and I will stepping it up in upcoming weeks. |
| Saturday, November 21st, 2009 |
| 12:46 am |
Baby Steps...
I think I have finally found the issue that kept me from moving forward in my dating life. It was that I wanted to make a too big of jump in improving my dating life in a very short time that kept me from doing it. Now, I will doing little experiments that will have me exposed to the situations I avoided in the past, but I will be exposed to those situations in a step-by-step process. If just standing next to an attractive woman makes me anxious, then I should first rationalize and get rid of that anxiety and then move on to a more involved interactions. I will be making progress daily, on incremental level (1%). |
| Sunday, November 15th, 2009 |
| 7:39 pm |
The first sarge together...
So I met up with my wingman today, we did some approaches here and there. But stalled to much. This should be a very productive relationship, because we are at the same level and all we need to do is to stick to this and be more active. He needs to push me harder, and I will do the same (which acutally worked). |
| Thursday, November 12th, 2009 |
| 1:38 pm |
Wingman...
I finally found myself a wingman, and I think a good one. He is also a college student, and seems to prefer day game. This should be a fun weekend and a beginning of great things to come. |
| Sunday, November 8th, 2009 |
| 10:04 pm |
New week..
A lot of exciting stuff will happen this week. |
| Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009 |
| 5:22 pm |
First Approach...
In a sense that I actually took on risk of getting rejected (but who cares ?) as I approached a girl in barnes and nobles with the muffin opener. It went pretty good, I felt lil bit uncomfortable, but that is expected. This feelings will go away as I do more of these approaches. I will only be using this opener for this weeks, and probably the upcoming weeks. I will practicing on using 3 seconds rule and opening. |
| Monday, October 26th, 2009 |
| 11:40 pm |
Two months till lift off...
Not really... It's two months left till the start of my trip to Chile and Argentina. I'm excited about it, and I get even more excited about is as the date gets closer. |
| Saturday, October 24th, 2009 |
| 3:54 pm |
10/24/2009
So I went out to practice today. I approached two girls, one of interactions lead to an interaction with two more girls. The second approach, I hesitated on, but still made it, and it was a pretty hot latina. I chatted with her, but didn't transition to a more personal level. Actually felt pretty good out there, I had a positive attitude and a pretty playful mindset. Keep cultivating this, and work on transitions. |
| Thursday, October 22nd, 2009 |
| 11:31 pm |
10/22/09
So I went out today, but didn't do anything. I kinda felt bad after I saw the first potential targets. I went back to "I can't do it..." mindset and it was all over from there. From my limited experience I can say that, this whole thing really depends on your attitude. Be positive and in a good frame of mind when you go for approach. Then all there is it is the action of doing an approach. I have done many approaches over the time, but consistency and the quality of approaches still sticks out. I need much more practice, I've all the tools I need, I just need to put them together and I will be unstoppable. I've had some glimpses of that unstoppable inner me, and I CAN be that person again. Things to do: 1. Avoid the inactivity and negative mindset circle. 2.Remember your previous approaches, run them through your mind again. 3. Remember: we can only overcome anxiety by doing it, and becoming familiar and comfortable in that area of our life. |
| Sunday, October 18th, 2009 |
| 8:58 pm |
Muffin and things
Man, finally today I used the Muffin and CupCake opener, and it worked perfectly. Now all I need is to play the numbers game, and used it and other openers I have and get as much experience under my belt as possible. I also got 96 on my Stat midterm, pretty much aced it. This week I have two more midterms and then probably another calculus exam after this. |
| Saturday, October 17th, 2009 |
| 1:46 pm |
Last nite...
I went out by myself, the club was kinda empty. I talked to a few people there. While talking to them I behaved confidently (faked) and it felt pretty good. I've been faking confidence in other areas of the my life with much success before, like public speaking, and I'm realizing that I can use this in this area of my life also. I was planning on going out tonite, but looks like the weather is going to get worse than Friday, so I'm going to just stay in and hang out with my friend. |
| Friday, October 16th, 2009 |
| 5:51 pm |
Oct.16th - Dec.16th
Goals: 1) Have 3 girlfriends 2) Have 7 girl-friends (friends) Actions A. Go out on weekly basis, at least once, but two nights is the best way to do this. B. Approach the girls you want to have in your life at every opportunity as it presents itself. |
| 12:01 am |
Back in Ny...
I have a midterm tomorrow morning, I busted my ass studying for it. I hope it pays off. Anyway, it looks like I will be going to Las Vegas one more time on Thanks Giving. I have also booked the tickets for my winter get away and now I just have to work out the whole spanish program thing. Oh, I have also done some shopping, and I will rocking some good looking styles now. |
| Friday, October 9th, 2009 |
| 3:58 pm |
Pushing and Pushing...
A little by little I'm pushing my comfort zones, but a lot remains to be done. I'm done for week. Now I'm waiting for a UPS package, while doing this I need to pack for my trip to Las Vegas tomorrow. All in all, everything is pretty good. |
| Friday, September 25th, 2009 |
| 9:22 pm |
Presentation Done!
But I still need to catch up on some other stuff related to my computers class. The presentation went well, I held myself pretty good, and didn't get that much anxiety. I probably had more anxiety thinking the evening before. Now that's behind us. I was planning going out tonite, but I haven't been able to get in touch with my wing. Hopefully I will abel to track him down tomorrow, because I wanna go out tomorrow nite. |
| Saturday, September 19th, 2009 |
| 4:07 am |
A Great Night Out!
Today I finally meet the guy that will probably be the missing link I have been looking for all this time, he is cool, he is nice, and he is very social and actually willing to help me get over the anxieties that I have. He even introduced me to nice girl, with whom I gelled pretty good, and I think he not interested in her (she also saw him approach other girls) and that he's cool with me taking her over. Excellent nite out. Now the key - consistency. Oh, and I have finally done a direct approach, with just simple "Hi", it didn't work but it felt pretty good. |
| Wednesday, September 16th, 2009 |
| 10:23 pm |
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Have fun and enjoy it out there!!! Keep rockin'. |
| Friday, September 11th, 2009 |
| 4:54 pm |
Second week in the books...
It was pretty good day today, aside from crappy weather. I had socialized a lot today, and it felt good to be active once again. Do more. |
| Thursday, September 10th, 2009 |
| 8:32 pm |
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| Friday, September 4th, 2009 |
| 4:09 pm |
First School over...
It's been a pretty good week. I have meet some people here and there, and I finally getting back to my school mindset. I also I think that I have got all the books and materials needed for my classes, aside from the calculator for my calculus class ( but I should get it this week). Later Today: Sushi and a game of pool Tomorrow: Big Family Talk, and finally ARGENTINA VS BRAZIL. |
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